We hear from multiple sources about the importance of self-care. According to different forums “self care is the actions that individuals take for themselves, on behalf of and with others in order to develop, protect, maintain and improve their health, wellbeing or wellness.”
Self-care seems to be the “trend” of 2018 and some people are using this term as a sweeping statement to cover hot-baths, beauty routines and indulgent meals. But we need to think about what self-care means to us personally, as individuals. We are biologically different so our needs also differ but self-care starts with a personal and conscious choice of wanting to live a more balanced and healthy life.
Big changes are not achieved overnight, but from one day to the other – it takes time and commitment, but you can be assured that big changes can happen and are achieved with small steps every day. For example, self-care may be about making time to keeping your body moving so your small step one day maybe deciding to walk up the stairs instead of taking a lift.
In my clinic I have noticed that almost everyone is willing to implement changes in their diet, physical activities, taking supplements or switching off the WiFi at night. However, if self-care means taking some time to meditate and I ask them to take time to sit, allowing themselves just to do nothing, I almost always receive this answer: “I do not know how to do that.”
Many people tend to feel guilty if they take time off away from their daily routines and activities. I believe this guilt is the result of living in a fast pasting and demanding society. Unfortunately our society does not teach us that health cannot be achieved with healthy diet and exercise alone. We are bombarded with messages that tell us to eat certain foods and exercise a certain way, but even if we follow all of this we can still be unwell and imbalanced.
It is essential that we learn to stop, sit down and allow ourselves to get in touch with our soul. At the start it is one of the most difficult exercises to do – we are almost scared to listen to our needs in case we find something we do not like about ourselves. However, as I always tell my clients, it is the most empowering moment in our life. There is nothing to be scared of because we all have faults as well as amazing gifts within us. Yes, from a personal experience it is hard to sit with pain, fears, anxiety but the reward is beyond recognition.
Until we acknowledge that the body and mind and soul are one it will be very difficult to live a balanced and healthy life. Caring about our wellbeing – be it physical, mental and spiritual self-care, is actually self-responsibility, for ourselves but also to those that love us.
Self-love and being self-caring is not indulgent but a sign of strength. If you want to take the step to live a more balanced life, but feel overwhelmed with how to start, please get in touch and find out how I can help you along this journey.